We’ve grown accustomed to various versions of what true love, or at least the idea of it, might be. The first girl you dated —true love; your first crush—true love; the first time you said those three words—true love, and the first time you had sex—true love. But, no. That is not what true love is.
It is not that feeling you get when you’re in bed with a girl and you climax together. It is not about being so attracted you can’t keep your hands off each other. It is not even about being best friends with her the way you’re best friends with your Bro! It is none of this, actually.
True love is when you see the other person for the first time ever, across a room, and you know that this person is going to change your life—for better, or for worse. True love is looking at her and knowing that the two of you were destined to meet. True love is basically, that molecular moment when you realize that your heart and your head are in complete synchrony when it comes to the girl you’re looking at. It is that moment when your entire being—no, not just your body—knows this person from another world; like you have been waiting all your life for this exact moment.
And then, it hits you—you’ve never felt this way before. It’s not normal, at all. Can this really be?
This person in front of you has captured your entire existence. It’s like your entire existence led you to this moment and this person and your purpose of life has now been solved. You know from the minute you said ‘Hello’, that she is going to affect you in ways you may never have known. And all the while, you’re thinking about how this is all going to unravel.
Before you know it, you’re talking about things, people and circumstances that no one else could ever understand. In fact, you’re saying things to each other that you have never said before. You don’t need words. You don’t need anybody else. You just need her and she needs you; even if you aren’t saying it out loud, yet.
So, you decide to go out on a date and it’s the first time in ages that you’ve tried to look your best—that shade of blue that women always love on you, that Bulgari Man perfume sprayed to just the right amount and your hair is perfectly combed and coiffed since forever! You’re nervous. And you have this feeling that so is she. You’re excited and you can’t wait to see her and know her and know where it’s all going.
On the date, you’re hardly eating; but you’re talking by the dozens. In fact, you need to slow down and calm down because the people around are beginning to wonder about you. And every time you laugh and look at each other, you know you’re thinking the same thing—this is really happening. And it feels magical that the two of you met at that perfect moment because there really could not be better timing. Divine intervention actually exists!
You already know where it’s headed, halfway through the date and you want to get ahead of it anyway. You want to know what it would feel like to hold her hand, put an arm around her shoulder, hold the small of her back and pull her closer to you. You want to know how her skin would feel under your fingers; or how her lips would taste when you kiss them. You want to know what she would smell like if you were to breathe her in. You want to know; there is so much you want to know and you can’t wait to get to know her! And chances are, she is thinking of the exact same thing; you can tell by the way she looks at you—there is something else in her eyes; it’s like she’s wondering about you. She’s curious, and so are you; and there is only one way to find out. But, you’re holding back out of sheer nervousness and fear that you don’t know what lies ahead.
But you want to go ahead anyway! Such is the contradiction that becomes of you. Such is the contradiction that becomes of her and soon, you’re freefalling into this whirlwind together. You don’t know how you got here; you don’t know how you’ll get out. You don’t know if you want to get out at all. And that’s the scary part. This literally, is it! It’s not the ‘could-be’ and the ‘would-be’ anymore. This is what it is and it’s the only way to describe it because honestly, you’re running short of words now. It’s just a matter of time before you fall hopelessly, head over heels, in love. Yes, it’s going to be the scariest thing you ever do with her. It’s going to be a warzone and paradise—wrapped in one. But this time, your head and your heart are welcoming it together.
That, my friend, is when you know it’s true love, indeed